I've been lurking through the last few pages and while I didn't follow parts of it i would like to say a huge thank you to everyone who has taken the time to post so much experience, it has been invaluable.
As it happens I went up today with a different instructor and did 6 touch and go's and 2 full stop landings in 50 mins that felt much, much better. Conditions were blustery and hazy - I was told before we even went to the plane I wouldn't be going solo - but I was much more stable on the approach, took much more time with the key elements rather than rushing it and spent more time getting out of the way of the plane rather than over thinking and over controlling. I'm not solo standard yet. But I'm confident that if I was thrown the keys in the morning I could cope. And I'll take that for now
So thanks again!