Can anyone actualy describe how they land though when they've been flying a while? I mean non instructors?
As a PPL I have often struggled with judging the correct height to round out, either over-flaring or plonking it onto the deck. Something that really helped was my instructor's advice during my night rating: "Start the round out when you feel the runway edge lights start to rise up around your shoulders".
It sounds bizarre but it really works for me, even during daytime (using runway edges rather than lights), and has made my landings far more consistent ever since. It also works on a variety of runway widths.
Once Ive rounded out and flared I then try to keep the aircraft flying as long as I can before it settles into the deck. It also sounds counter-intuitive but works...