I suppose i must have been lucky i guess.when i did my intial training my instructor spent a couple of hrs with me doing just what has been suggested on other posts,slow flying,flap use and effective elevator and rudder control.to finish me off and to get rid of my death grip on the control column he also took me through some basic aerobatics.(all of this really helped as i felt i could really fly the aircraft after that) of course that was 5000+hrs ago and i realize that i still cant fly and am still learning