Mitchaa,
If you love your family, even if offshore shuttling has become mind numbingly boring... Stay put and cherish what you have
Nigeria has always been and always will be a honey trap, salary, bush bars, bush bunnies and "I worked in Africa". It ain't a Redford and Streep gig believe me.
It's a ****hole of poverty and desperation you can see at every turn
The 70's of fun and expat legend have been replaced with fear and hiding behind closed doors and razor wire. Hold fast young man and rejoice in the happiness you have right now, even if it is a tad fuzzy
good luck.