Well said, except we should all be able to execute a go-around whether ordered by ATC or not, so their involvement here is irrelevant.
FANS: I'm sure low fuel was a stress factor. Why do the CAA/ICAO allow us to carry such low fuel?
I have seen a real go-around handled badly. I know of a real EFATO where the gear wasn't brought up. These examples were both 'flown' by experienced captains, one of whom was a training captain.
As I suggest in post 143, perhaps we need to get back to the basics in the SIM and practice each manoeuvre say 10 times, not just once every 6 months.
A motor memory needs to be frequently practised otherwise it will fade.