In defence of my military colleagues, anyone who has been a pilot or ATC for more than five minutes will have stories of the other side being daft or less than perfect. And ATC do have the equivalent of 'briefing as a threat' for certain operators and/or aircraft.
Leaving aside the performance of ATC, isn't a major issue that we are trying to use a single pice of tarmac and sky as both military base and a civil airport? With a low enough number of movements that can work (and does all over the world I gather). One a certain level is reached one side is going to suffer, and as the military own the place it will be civil.
Since OneSky will probably involve relocating all civil TCUs except PH to ML or BN, it will be interesting to see what happens to DN, TL etc. When PEA moved into PH centre everyones lives became easier.