Firefly bob has it quite right. Ultimately it was a team event and a team fail. But the Captain was the team leader and he failed at that too. He seemed to be just along for the ride and quite clearly had questionable competency issues for whatever reasons. I can't buy that a straightforward go around was so grossly mismanaged because it was of a "startle factor". On any approach you should be primed to go around, just as any take off you should be ready an emergency either side of V1. Complacency and competency are the greatest threats to ourselves. And it was the correct call by ATC.