Sometimes I read comments like some on this thread, and think that many in the UK military have embraced and indeed idolized the "Tommy" status so skilfully described by Rudyard Kipling - to the point they get upset if anyone breaks the pattern by actually honoring them for having placed their lives in risk on behalf of their country.
Traumatic Bonding pathology is rather insidious, as it makes the victim believe they don't deserve better (or even adequate) treatment from their abuser, and they feel scared if there isn't abuse.