TBM
I think you miss my point, these threads are often 'aimed' at engendering some form of guilt because someone who served, died alone etc.
I feel sad for anybody that dies alone. However, I don't feel responsible for it, why should 'someone who served' be treated more favourably than say - a nurse or a doctor, or even a shop assistant?
I certainly would not criticise anybody who manages to mark the passing in a more positive manner, be they ex or non-service personnel.