Gents ...
All very sobering indeed.
My dear old Dad (WWII RE Bomb Disposal Officer ... and holder of the MC) said on many occasions that ... "When the balloon goes up you have to do what's necessary to get the job done. Your training helps you make the right calls, but no amount of peacetime procedural training will be sufficient to prepare you for what you will be faced with or required to do in action" ... Your personal recounts above are continuing testimony to My Dad's words.
AA62 ... It always amazes me how "others", not usually at the sharp end (or haven't been there for a while), and possibly further up the tree, don't instinctively seek advice from the guys actually "doing the job" in the
Fist Instance 
I too wish to pay my respects to the Sea King Crew who lost their lives in the FI tragedy.
Coff.