While not intending to trespass on your grief Algie, may I respectfully point your attention to the following link that has 708 replies and 835,742 hits as I write.
http://www.pprune.org/rumours-news/5...onetsk-36.html
There appears to be a significant amount of hand wringing on this topic and it's probably best to treat the matter as educational and unemotional as possible. I like to ask the simple question first, "what can we learn from all this" and that answer should point you to who had the duty of care.
In my opinion, and I'll say no more, Dolan will not achieve anything for those grieving, let alone arrive at the conclusion so obvious to all but politically insignificant.
I doubt the previous posters considered your grief. I certainly had no idea until your emotional post. I'll pray with you if it helps.