a) They never actually practice the final critical stage of actually landing off airport.
Of course not, its high risk, likely to damage the aircraft.
Do pilots practice ballistic chute pulls?, of course not, they just simulate them
d) I would not trust my family to fly with anyone who had the more Macho mentality of doing forced landing in fields rather than use the safer option of the chute. (If they were in a cirrus)
Me neither, I also wouldnt trust an instructor, with the blinkered view that a chute pull was
always the best alternative, which your post implies