Ask yourself why they behave this way? What did you do to build bridges and engage with them when they arrived?
Let me ask you this, Satsuma.
If burglars broke into your home, what would you do to build bridges and engage with them when they arrived?
Open the drinks cabinet, cook them a nice meal, give them the key(s) to the car(s), offer them your bed (and wife?), hand over the cash and jewellery.
How kind of you.
(Please tell me you're just trying to wind us up.)