Wiggy,
I could understand how that feels. We all go through security clearances, and most airlines I know do psychological screening on their pilots, not necessarily their fa's, so if the policy is put in place as a security measure against a rogue pilot, I too would feel a little insulted. As I noted most places I've worked its not been about baby sitting the pilots, but rather as an added safety measure. Most pilots at my airline welcome a new face in the flight deck anyways, since the locked flight deck door policy, and it's actually great for building trust and rapport among the whole crew ( is. Cc feel more confident in expressing their concerns to a pilot who has taken some opportunity to speak with them a little).