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You never know, your letter may have been the one that sowed the seed.
Steve Webb is getting a mixed press these days but he seems to be well meaning and fair. I did think it strange that the Commons didn't push the vote catching military aspect though. Either way, it could make quite a difference. As you say, your wife followed you in the service of the country, and in doing so she gave up the chance of a steady career and independent retirement benefits.