Yes, the army joke was a double tap at you, as I know your background.
I would hope already that
you have learnt enough of the basics to have prevented this cockup!
Day VMC, Operating with another of your company aircraft to the same area, (to an area used frequently by all accounts). R/T position reports? A basic landing site recce using the mark 1 eyeball before committing to fly into your oppo's aircraft (having planned an approach routing that gave a safe under/overshoot)
Alway lessons to be learnt from every incident, accident in life. Complacency being a good one.