I don't think it is Androids fault all that "stuff" is on the phone. I have had a HTC Desire (bought in HK) for 4 years and it has been trouble-free and bloatware-free since purchase.
I rooted it after purchase and have tried many different roms on it. Great fun if that is what tickles your fancy. You can un-root easily if necessary.
To get rid of that stuff you'll need to root it (plenty of help on the net). I use RootAppDelete available on Android Market. Use the Safe Mode function to disable the system apps (this program also tells you what you can and can't safely disable) - they can be enabled again if something goes wrong.
