Pardon the short digression from the original topic...
one ball it seems that the premise of CRM is totally lost on you. CRM is not about being touchy-feely or not hurting anyone's feelings. CRM is about utilising every crew members skills and abilities in order to reduce the human factors that in turn may contribute to accidents/incidents.
A cockpit is not two people operating as individuals. It is two people operating as a co-operative cohesive group in order to complete certain tasks effectively. Your statement of "one where everyone remembers who's in command" is an example of antiquated, militarian and outdated thinking.
Anyway my 2 cents.. I've been enjoying this very interesting and lively debate, and hope it will continue in a very gentleman-like manner.
SG
