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Sounds like Solent/Bournemouth
Has happened to me before now, but Solent usually query (if you don't state) what type of clearance you want on initial contact.
Don't see it as any more dangerous than being asked to report at VRPs you cannot find
If you cannot accept RV for an ILS approach it would be sensible to say so - especially in the scenario you describe where the weather is not CAVOK and you've never let it be known you're VFR...