Captain Wannabee,
This is the sort of conversation that aught to go on between aviators, professional or otherwise, if we're ever going to learn anything. The approach to dealing with icing may be poor, but your attitude in asking intelligent questions is correct. It also seemed perfectly clear to me that you didn't know, had heard some advice you were uncertain of, so were asking for more advice.
Anybody who is criticising you for asking intelligent questions about a safety related subject, probably has a point of view less valid than your own.
G