Thanks guys! I think!(?) No seriously I appreciate your replies - it is just as you said
RTFM it is "not what I wanted to hear" but at least you have been honest and I always appreciate that.
ASFKAP likewise!
At the end of the day I only have myself to blame - especially having been here once before!
No doubt my friends will remind me when I have missed their birthdays, anniversaries, etc.... (although that is the least of my worries!)
Thanks again.