Back to the original subject...
We have only ourselves to blame if the CSD's or whatever are left with the impression that they are in command. In the past I have seen captains fail to give their cabin staff the support they deserve when it comes to pax problems. The case was quoted of the flight deck leaving the cabin to deal with a large number of delayed pax with the casual comment "See you in the Hotel then!"
Being a Captain involves a lot more than wearing four rings. It means demonstrating your responsibility consistently and not just when it suits you.
Respect is earned. If you haven't received the level you think is appropriate, first consider where you or your colleagues have gone wrong.
Then kick a***!