I'm sure your money is as welcome to the flight training schools as anyones. I tend to think gender would be the least of any worries in trying to get a good paying job in aviation at present, particularly if you're going modular. A very rough calculation would have you breaking even as a loco co-pilot after around 8 to 10 years, compared with someone on the minimum wage (UK). Thats if you got a job straight after training.