Stuckgear -- That's a big long post with lots of re-posting.
1. Please, feel free to read it at leisure.
2. I reposted it because it's clear you didnt read it the first time, and you've come back again with a question which makes it clear you didn't read it the second time either.
I'm happy to come back to any point you want to discuss but may I please focus, just now, on how 'you', the oncoming pilot, will notice my existence? Or the existence of a crane or a building?
3. see post we are referencing.
For me it tends to be flashing or occulting lights. Solids are good for orientation and identification but they are very easy to miss, especially in the air. Less so at sea, oddly.
4. see point 3.
So what do you think about flashing lights?
5. see point 4
6. see point 5.
And do you immediately turn right?
7. see point 2