Stuckgear -- That's a big long post with lots of re-posting. I'm happy to come back to any point you want to discuss but may I please focus, just now, on how 'you', the oncoming pilot, will notice my existence? Or the existence of a crane or a building?
For me it tends to be flashing or occulting lights. Solids are good for orientation and identification but they are very easy to miss, especially in the air. Less so at sea, oddly.
So what do you think about flashing lights? And the rules? And do you immediately turn right?