Thanks for everyone's comments and thoughts.
Frankly I don't really want to do spin training but I do want to get to the point when the mention of a stall doesnt makes me tense up and in some cases make my arms shake. I think the suggestion of spin training was to give me confidence that there was nothing to fear and instill more of an instinctive response for getting an aircraft out of a stall.
Looks like my options are going to an aero club or glider club. Must admit I have never been in a glider and Bicester club is not too far from me so I may look into that.
I did spend time with my instructor trying to overcome the stalling fear but I think I need a different approach to exercise the demons, not more of the same. I did do a recovery from a spin in my skills test and having been well briefed by the examiner and knowing what's at stake I performed it fine.
I would like to get to the point where when I'm doing a checkout or someone is showing me their aircraft and we do a stall I can genuinely feel how the aircraft is responding rather than internal panic & feeling of fear.
I'm know I'm not unusual and lots of good pilots have had to overcome this so great to have collective wisdom......just don't mention a need for parachutes to me
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