Again, BOAC, you are spot-on. I don't expect soldiers, sailors and airmen to enjoy killing people, but I also don't hold with the 'excessive hand-wringing' as you so neatly put it.
Probably easier for me than many as I was always air defence and could always console myself with the thought that I was stopping the bad guys from hurting people, but that doesn't mean that I don't have a conscience.
Poor guys, never stood a chance? Fine by me. As BrainStormer says, I don't need a fight to be fair.
Finally, no I don't wish a painful end on anyone. But I am still a bit surprised by the outpouring of sympathy for the bad guys that die in a fight/war/action.