I love female pilots. I have flown with quite a few and have found them to be easily the equivalent of male pilots as one should expect any dedicated professional would be.
I am in totally awe of some female aviatrixes, especially the likes of the famous Hanna Reitsch.
If you have difficulty in your understanding of aviation and where the fairer sex fits in, you should study a little history going back to ferry pilots of WWII and earlier pioneers.
Don't embarrass or humiliate yourself with a personal lack of knowledge of those who have gone before and have dedicated themselves to making your flying job safer.