Right Way Up - I am not sure I agree with your analysis about 'most, if not all ex-mil would deal with this scenario'. I am ex-mil and spent the early part of my career both with and around countless military pilots, many of whom are now dead through making critical errors in very demanding situations. If I have learnt nothing down the years, it is that if a mistake can be made then it will be made - sometimes known as 'Murphy's Law'. I think you also have to compare like with like - there were two First Officers in the cockpit of that A330, one of whom was very inexperienced. The peculiarities of the AF447 crash were that the clear limitations of the training these Airbus pilots had received was highlighted very dramatically - I dare to suggest that until that accident, a similar fate would have befallen many pilots around the world. I can assure you that many inexperienced military pilots have ended up as charred bits of flesh in an instant through handling failings of one kind or another. The universal problem is that the human propensity is to err. That will never change, but what can change is training and selection to ensure the right people are given the right training to cope with unexpected and life-threatenign situations. The trick is putting 'experienced' thinking into inexperienced pilots. IMHO, the training facilities for commercial pilots far exceed anything I ever saw in the military. As we always do, we try to train for the accident that has already been rather than the one that is still to come - it is difficult to do it any other way.
As this thread is about easyJet, let me use them as an example. I have been flying Airbuses for many years, both with easyJet and a previous operator. I have no recollection of ever doing stall training, not even on the type rating - it may have happened, but if it did I have absolutely no memory of it. Since the Air France accident, easyJet have done stall training for the last two recurrent sims on every single pilot in the company. Closing the door after the horse has bolted? Possibly, but a very good move and an excellent training exercise in my opinion. I am now very confident that if we experienced a similar situation to AF447, we would have an extremely high chance of a successful outcome. If I am honest I am not so sure that many Airbus operators could have said that before the crash, but we have all stepped up to the plate to sort the problem out.
Every crash I have ever seen has resulted in the countless 'I would never have done that' comments from the great and the good on forums such as this. I have never held that view, and have always believed I am capable of doing any act of stupidity, and therefore constantly try to mentally prepare myself for every eventuality. Therefore, when the day of the big race comes, I hope to have a reasonable chance of not coming last! This is not an issue of military v civilian - it is an issue of training. I absolutely concur that AoA being available would be very good, but I do not accept that flying AoA, like the fast jet community, is what works in the civil world - horses for courses and all that. What works is providing the best equipment (including a readout of AoA - which I do not believe exists on Boeings either, but someone may correct me on that) but more importantly the best training to ensure that you can get yourself out of a potentially disastrous situation.