1) ATC should have probably instructed you to start descending a little earlier. They know planes' descent capability is less at flaps up, or green dot speeds, so the first one goes to them.
2) If ATC "screws up" by having you slow down while too high, at some point they´ll realize AND they´ll fix it with a 360° turn, a vector...etc..
Sudden winds, although ATC may be that proactive in some parts of the world, in many parts they are not. In fact, in some parts they are not even proficient in the basics of controlling let alone what you describe. A few weeks back I was inbound to a SE Asain country and the airport closed due to the movement of a VIP aircraft. It was NOTAM´d and expected, however, ATC struggled to organise the five or six inbound aircraft into holding patterns and after a few minutes simply stopped talking and we pilots broadcast our intentions to each other in order to remain separated. Fifteen minutes later when the VIP movement had finished ATC came back on air and started controlling like nothing had happened.
Personally I find it best to assume that ATC will drop the ball and that way I am caught out less often. There is no point (in my opinion) of thinking about how ATC dropped the ball because the final responsibility lies with the crew. That responsibility cannot be transferred to a controller.