In my view, total war is just that. Nobody is spared the horrors of it, My mum came home from work to find the street demolished! My dad, on returning to Portsmouth from the Atlantic was pulling bodies, women and kids, from bombed houses. Coming back to S. London in '44 thinking the bombing was over, my mum,sister and me then spent nights, in an air raid shelter listening to V1's going overhead. They, like the V2's, didn't give a toss who was below. My experience wasn't unique, it was repeated thousands and thousands of times over.
WWII was not about armed forces fighting armed forces. It was one civilisation at war with another civilisation and unfortunately, that includes everyone. I have difficulty trying to comprehend why some people do not understand and accept that.
We should all have nothing but unquestionable respect and admiration for the crews of Bomber Command for what they did. No bloody 'yes but' about it!