red hot amateur
I just had my first two lessons and I can understand how you feel with all these new things thrown at you. But maybe this little story might help you a bit:
Many years ago one of Germany's most loved actors the late Heinz Rühmann who was also a private pilot was asked about his flying during an interview. He told how he was taught flying. His instructor told him to hold the stick only between his thumb and his index finger thus allowing him to steer the airplane with small adjustments and without using great force. He followed this advice throughout his flying career and I think he was still flying in his 80's.
I always remembered this. Although I must admit when I had my first trial lesson about one and a half years ago I completely forgot about it and I was very tense and holding the yoke like I was fighting with the airplane.
I hope this helps.
GAF4139