Recent study suggests that on the Titanic "Women and Children First" was strongly enforced by crew and captain with firearms. Otherwise history shows that an every man for himself situation on shipboard means the women and kids don't make it.
Therefore one needs very very firm discipline to insist on an orderly evacuation. Sounds like this was a textbook case.
We've been through this before on PPrune
Short of using fire arms to enforce your theory, it's every person for themselves
live with it, those who get to the door first should exit first