'You are not comparing like with like and the accidents that you are probably thinking of could equally have occured to civil aircraft.'
Indeed they could have, but the fact remains that they didn't. As I understand it the aircraft were on the civil register, were carrying non-flying passengers and operating in class G on a see-and-avoid basis - I can't see where that diverges from civilian air experience ops.
With that backdrop, it seems to me that the 'bumbling GA' attitude was singularly inappropriate. Perhaps I should also say that the intention is not to bash the RAF, but to suggest an appropriate degree of humility on the part of this particular individual in light of those facts.