Aterpster/livin'field
OK... in living memory there have been only a few highly public events where an aircraft has been deliberately crashed... it is a fairly large headline, (or was when it ended up with the "Patriot Act"... and a war or two on questionably dubious grounds).
If you assume that the PIC was not either homicidal or suicidal, then he is about the same boat as the Air France FO's or the Polish Airforce Captain... and hundreds of others that given slightly different circumstances would be relating another hangar/war story rather than at best wishing for an opportunity to redo 10 seconds of their life, or at worst have their families and those of their victims wishing for that opportunity.
Being human is a double edged sword, occasionally we see the benefit of humans in the loop, ie QF32, US1549 and many more daily events that culminate in a save that doesn't rate a headline, and other times you don't.
There is a fair chance that the PIC's family in this case feels rather conflicted, with some thoughts aligned with Aterpster's but would also have all the natural grieving processes of any human loss.
A more constructive question may be why does one crew get themselves into such an out of sorts event when others (Aterpster included, naturally) can avoid it for 20,000hrs/25 years. In the cold light of day, it is often staggering to consider how risky a particular event was that a crew has on the day considered as being worth staying with. Cognitive overload, loss of AS, or pure incompetence, whatever, is far more common than is indicated in the funny pages, most stuff ups result in nothing more than embarrassment and dented ego's, and underneath it all, the group risk taking generally proceeds unabated. Every event you "get away with" assists in normalising deviation, and this is universal behaviour, exhibited in the USA, China, Korea, Europe and the Antibodies etc., civil and military.
It is harsh to attack the departed who cannot defend their own name, but then, a lot of other grieving families are invested heavily in the decisions that the PIC took... and their burden is no less severe.