QDJM
I am very sorry to read all the stuff about chocolate baubles.
This medal is first of all a way of celebrating HM's long and (lets face it) happy reign.
Might it help to think of the award, whether it is received or begrudged, as we would think of a parade - us in tribute rather than us receiving a hand-out ?
One of our contributors knows that I am one of many to value (and pay to have mounted ... and to wear possibly just the once) the Malaysian PJM. In the correspondence and the investiture, I have been conscious more than anything of the honourable intent of the Malaysian government (and the measurable indignity that our MOD wished upon it) when it issued this medal. I value that good intent.
I am happy not to get the QDJM, as I would be happy not to have to bull up for the associated parade. But I am very glad for HM that enough of the medals can be issued - and that most of the recipients will have to do some more marching before they get it !