There's also a difference between being scared sh1tless and identifying a military threat and moving your forces to counter it.
As I remember there where no military targets I BA in 82 except for the people who make the decisions just like now so your first point is at odds to the one above
TLAM is a very good weapon, but only game changing when employed in sufficient numbers to cause permanent loss of capabilities. We can do that when Uncle Sam and his skimmers crammed with TLAM are with us. Different story if we're on our tod.
Depends what the target is and how hard you want to hit it