Regarding the idea that flying gives you control over your fate, but driving doesn't because of all the other numpties on the road, I thought I'd post a graph showing the relationship between age and fatal accidents:
From a study cited in:
http://http://transportation.njit.edu/nctip/final_report/Mature_Driver.htm
Figure 1:
The fact that there's such a marked effect of age on driver safety implies that the way that different drivers drive has a very strong influence on their risk of having a fatal accident.
In other words, you have considerable say in your fate in driving accidents, as well as flying accidents. I can imagine that this is less the case for motorcyclists though.