In the last two years our small group, (about four hundred owners but less on line,) has lost a couple of stalwarts. As they were both outgoing and big contributors to both our technical and social sites their loss hit particularly hard.
After the first event, B's wife asked another of our number to post that she expected us to discuss the accident and not to hold back from discussion for those reasons we speculate on Pprune.
After G's accident his wife posted to tell us how she felt and it allowed us to express our support, though there has been less discussion.
Personally it won't matter a whole lot to me, whether dead or injured, if you discuss an accident I am involved in. It would matter if something similar happened to someone else who could have known better by discussing it. That would be too PC, and I hate PC.