BRL,
It's your party and you make the rules, but the idea that a discussion about this subject could have anything other than prurient interest is a bit far-fetched. This place bills itself as a 'rumour network' and yet as soon as anything unfortunate occurs it suddenly becomes as sanctimonious and prissy as a cathedral. The stench of hypocrisy tingles the old olfactory organ...
Your party, though, like I say.
QDM