Chugs,
I agree with you, although I wouldn't necessarily accuse TH of crying wolf. Your case about military airworthiness is well made.
In TH's support, I would just say that we should all consider carefully the security implications of what we post. We're grown-ups and should know where the line is drawn.
As for upsetting the living, as long as no one attacks the relatives, passes undue judgement on the deceased or speaks inappropriately, considered opinion on the failings of the "system" and its masters is healthy.
As with everything, care and balance are called for.