Why did you find it relevant to tell us the sex of the cabin crew?
Why would you complain that you were asked if you would like water when the crew were holding water/juice jugs? Isn't that just polite?
A request for more drinks is likely to have just been forgotten. A gentle reminder or a stretch of the legs to the galley might have done the trick.
Special meals. At my old airline, and every airline I have ever flown on, special meals are always served first and quite often they are devoured before the main meals are. Unfortunately, logistically this is how it works. Special meals, in economy atleast, get dished out first.
The experience has declined in the last 10 years, and it definitely has at VS. However, times are hard and until we all start paying the going rate for air travel it ain't going to improve. All that said, I still don't get much of what you complain about.