So I'm having trouble understanding, if you use Vap all the way down until you retard the levers, you're not crossing 50ft at Vref, and in a 3º glideslope/path that directs you to the 1000ft mark, the only way of touching down in it is with an almost hard landing, since you're in a +- 700ft/min descent rate established on the glideslope.
hi !
the Vapp vs Vref is for wind component correction , the descend rate on a given glide path as well the flaring distance to hit the tdz are purely related on ground speed so adding some airspeed to the vref will not make you go faster in regards to groundspeed when you have a head wind.
when it comes to flare you should aim for a smooth touchdown without a exessive flare and balloning over the runway. depending on the aircraft type balloning may even result in a tail strike and for sure it extends the landing distance.
cheers !