No of course not, that would not be my preference or anyone elses but you miss my point. We don't live in a perfect world and never will but in my own little way I would just prefer the wider worry is kept to a minimum if possible. Disaterous news however it arrives will always be disaterous news, simply a personal choice if I was the centre of the issue. I would add I will never forget the phone ringing in my little self employed office is it a client or that call I don't want or if the carer had come through the door, it would not have made the day any better!