I heard a story (apocraphal?) that an RAF Officer was engaged (discretely) to an airwoman who did not serve on the same airbase. He asked permission to take her to the summer ball, but the request was refused by the PMC. The officer's response (supported by his fiance) was to go into the local town and hire a pair of escorts for the evening. He took great delight in introducing them to the Stn Cdr, PMC and their guests, and went on to explain who they actually were and why he had to bring alternative female company.
What is actually true, was a Sqn collegue many years ago who was engaged to a civilian employee who worked in Admin wing. Sadly, the PMC (OC Admin) refused to allow her into the mess for any functions because she was not of the appropriate CS grade.
My story , reverses the gender .
As a serving Corporal , at a N Lincolnshire Air Defence base flying English built interceptors, the then wife , who happened to be a reporter on the Louth Standard , was invited to the BofB Ball at the Mess with her husband.
At the time , I still wanted to make a career in the RAF , so worked through all the commisioned ranks up to OC Leafy , to seek permission to attend . He approved, but sought clearance from the PMC , who was Henry P( and I believe an ex OR) who refused . As my wife pointed out to the Staish, when asked not to write the article about the whole saga , I would have been welcome if I had been a rapist.
Unsurprisingly, I PVR'd not long after .