RNZAF MQs - not quite true that they were desegregated. Woodbourne and Hobsonville both had senior officer patches and rules for Messes etc were the same as here - indeed, stricter. A Woman colleague of mine (Flt Lt) met and married a Cpl - the only grief came from her father, a 'dyed in teh wool' Sqn Ldr who had risen through the ranks himself.
Although the formal RAF requirement to get your CO's approval for marriage, when I got married in 1995 I had to get the Stn Cdr's signature on the application for an Archbishop's Special License and had to take an oath in the stn church, with the Padre, just outside the gates at Lyneham.