Seems to me that the best solution is for pilots to spend some time in control rooms and for ATCs to spend some time in the cab. That way we really will understand each others needs a little more.
Always has been and always will. That and the debrief at the local hostelry afterwards. Did 2 sectors in the jump-seat of a 737-800 this morning - always a learning experience - even after 20 yrs and quite a few previous fam flights.
When you coming to visit?