Take the leave....
If you're not made redundant then there's no problem.
If you decide how you wish to be informed if you are made redundant, phone, e-mail, delayed till you come back off leave, etc, then that's YOUR CHOICE.
Is being told personally by the Stn Cdr your decision, OR HIS - so he can feel good about himself that he is looking after the chaps, and tell his command chain what a good chap he has been.
It's your life, your military career, or ex-career, and if you've been made redundant all the soft soap in the world from the Stn Cdr won't change anything. Or is he worried about duty of care, if someone on his base is told they are redundant in some insensitive manner and does something foolish as a consequence...?
It's a bit like the interview with the Stn Cdr just prior to retirement. What's the point? It's a bit late in the day then to be showing any interest in the individual, and if it's to say "thanks for your time", well, I for one can live without that thanks.
Perhaps if more senior officers said "thanks for your efforts" to individuals, not some massive gathering, on a more regular basis then fewer people would be leaving in the first place.........