To add to Heliduck's thoughts, if I may?
My dad, a child of the Great Depression and WWII, I think put it best when
a bunch of us were discussing this subject. The difference between doing
something for yourself vs. doing something "in your face" was summed up nicely with: " If you are going to do something just to get a reaction from someone else, you would have to be a GD idiot to be surprised if it was a negative one."
Rigid