One thing that stands out is at circa FL350 the Captain should have taken his seat. Why would he not do that?
Why would a Captain decide to be only a back seat observer and commentator?
With my limited experience I have found that all the pro pilots (civy and military) are of the assertive/like to have control personality more than passive observer personality. (sorry I'm not a psychologist so I lack the fancy words).
Equally the PNF should have given his left seat back to his boss and insist he take it. Especially after the insane teenage nagging conversations he had with PF.
What am I missing here - is there an AF policy in an emergency for CAPT to stand back and oversee/bark orders?
I don't think trading seats would take that long given the adreniline.